Later, start talking about more personal things, like their outfits or music they like. You can try something like “I love that top! Where did you get it?” or “Did you watch the new video that dropped last night?” If there aren’t any in your classes, you can chat with them at pep rallies, assemblies, or games.
Try to build on your previous conversations. If you talked about shopping in class, try saying “Are you going to the grand opening at the mall next week?”
Keep it casual when you ask. Don’t act nervous or act like you’re begging. All you have to do is say “Hey is it okay if I sit here?” If they do say no, keep cool. Say “okay” or “no problem” and walk away like you have plenty of other places to sit, which you do.
For example, if they’re talking about football, don’t talk about how boring you think it is or how much you hate a particular player. Say something like “I heard we got a few new players that are really good. "
Check your social media feed for anything embarrassing or hurtful before you add them. Don’t go through their entire feed and start liking everything! It can make you look desperate. Only hit like a few times on a few of their posts.
If they say no or just don’t add you, don’t make a big deal out of it. Some groups are protective of their group text and will need to get to know you better before adding you.
Don’t go overboard. Pick one or two small things to adopt instead of dressing exactly like them.
Don’t stare at her or act like you’re spying on her. It’s okay to ask a friend, “Does Kiara like R&B or is she more into house music?” It will seem weird if you approach her or her friends with a list of questions or to go through her things trying to find out about her.
Keep it lighthearted and make sure it’s nothing that would embarrass her. It’s okay to tag her in something everybody knows about her, like a hobby or her favorite team, but don’t tag her in anything negative or overly personal.
For example, if you’re both from the same part of town, say “My cousin Tom grew up in Ridgeside too, do you know him?”
It doesn’t have to sound fake. Try saying something like “Hiroko always looks so put together. Do you know where she shops?”
Don’t go overboard or say anything overly personal. “You’re so perfect and beautiful, I wish I was just like you” will probably make her feel uncomfortable around you. Try something more casual like “Your hair always looks so perfect! What do you use on it?”
Make the invitation as casual as possible. Try saying something like “I was going to go shopping for a homecoming dress Friday, do you guys want to meet up at the food court or something?”
If she doesn’t seem like she had a good time, wait a little while before inviting her somewhere again. If she does mention future plans, don’t be afraid to bring them up later! Say something like “Remember when we were at the boardwalk and you said we should all go to one of the outdoor concerts? There’s a really cool one this weekend. ”
Keep the invitation casual. Don’t beg her or guilt her into going. Just say something like “Hey, we’re having a sleepover at my house this weekend, want to come? We’re doing karaoke and makeovers. "
If you feel like maybe you haven’t been a great friend, start practicing! Talk to your friends about their lives. Try to listen more than you speak. Ask them how you can be a better friend to them.
For example, instead of complaining about the rain, mention how pretty you think thunderstorms can be. If you are feeling negative due to clinical depression, don’t hesitate to ask for help.
You can say something simple like “I love your backpack!” or “Great game yesterday!”
If there’s something the popular girls all wear that you really like, get it! But don’t just mindlessly copy them. Develop your own unique style.
