If it’s a new relationship, starting with the basics is fine. You can ask things like, “What kind of sports do you like?” and “What’s your favorite team?” As you go closer, however, ask open ended questions that allow you to get to know your boyfriend as a person. Try something like, “What is it about sports you like?” and “When did you first develop an interest in sports?” Ask your boyfriend things like, “Do you find sports inspirational? Are there any players you find admirable?”
Aim for a sport you can both play with some success, if possible. If you figure skated in high school, and your boyfriend plays hockey, you could go skating together and occasionally have lighthearted hockey competitions. Try to incorporate sports into your date nights regularly. You could, for example, make a point of shooting hoops together every Tuesday night when your boyfriend comes to spend the night. If you don’t like playing sports, find a hobby that involves sports. You could, for example, agree to play a sports related video game with your boyfriend. You could also promise to watch the games him, or play sports trivia at a local bar.
Watch ESPN regularly and watch a few matches of your boyfriend’s favorite sport. Try to figure out the rules when watching. You can also look up the rules online if you’re confused. Read the history of your boyfriend’s favorite sport online. You could also learn a bit about his favorite players and his favorite team. If it doesn’t bother your boyfriend, try asking about the rules while watching sports with him. However, be careful. If your boyfriend is invested in the game, he may get annoyed by your questions.
When you’re invited to hang out with the team or his sports buddies, don’t just stay by your boyfriend’s side all night. Chat up some of his teammates. Allow yourself to form somewhat independent friendships with them. Be polite to his teammates and sports friends. Ask them questions that allow you to get to know them, such as where they’re from, where they went to school, what their families are like, and so on.
Cuddle with your boyfriend when watching sports on TV. Place your hand on his knee. Hold his hand. Lean against him. If you’re playing sports together, take opportunities to touch him. Playfully rub his shoulder when playing basketball. Lightly wrestle with him during a game of football.
Try teasing your boyfriend lightly and in good spirits. You can give him a hard time when he’s getting frustrated that his team is losing. You can also tease him lightly if he misses a shot while the two of you are playing basketball. If your boyfriend doesn’t take well to teasing, try making observational jokes about the game. Mock the announcer or the other team’s outfits. If you two are playing sports together, try making a few self-depreciating jokes at your own expense.
Give your boyfriend a coy compliment about his body when he’s playing sports. Touch your boyfriend flirtatiously when you’re watching sports together.
Ask your boyfriend if it’s okay that you tag along. Tell him it’s fine if he wants to go to a sporting event with a friend instead of you. Keep communication open. Tell your boyfriend it’s okay to let you know at any time if he needs some space.
Focus on the positive aspects of your differences. Why were you attracted to your boyfriend to begin with? Maybe you liked him because of his ability to feel excitement. His enthusiasm about sports may be a manifestation of that quality. Respect that this is a passion that your boyfriend has, even if you don’t share it. Remind yourself there are interests you have that may seem absurd to him.
